Q: Can unsolicited advice ever be given in a way that it’s appreciated?
A reader is concerned about a co-worker who recently spent the weekend in the hospital due to dangerously high blood pressure. This co-worker, who has been struggling with health issues and a difficult marriage, has started to make lifestyle changes but continues to face significant stress in her personal life. The reader wonders if they should suggest marriage counseling to help her manage the stress and improve her overall well-being.
A: Minding Your Own Business
While it’s understandable to want to help, unsolicited advice can be tricky. First, encourage your co-worker to address her immediate health issue. She needs to speak with her physician about her blood pressure, as there are medications and lifestyle adjustments that can help stabilize it. Once her health is on track, it may be appropriate to suggest marriage counseling as a way to reduce stress, which could, in turn, make other health goals more manageable. But until she asks for advice, it’s best to focus on her physical health first.
Q: How do I set boundaries with my mother, who continues to have contact with my registered sex offender father?
A reader shares their concern about their mother’s ongoing relationship with their father, who is a registered sex offender. The reader, who is expecting a child, is unwilling to let their mother have access to their child due to the father’s presence and fears that their mother will share personal details or images of their child with him. The reader asks how to handle this delicate situation, especially with other family members potentially criticizing their decision.
A: Protecting Your Child Comes First
As a parent, you have the right to establish boundaries when it comes to who has access to your child. It’s clear that you don’t trust your mother to respect these boundaries, and it’s important to prioritize your child’s safety. If that means restricting her contact or withholding personal photos, that’s a decision only you can make. If family members challenge your decision, don’t apologize for doing what’s best for your child. Sexual offenders are legally required to stay away from minors, and if that’s not happening, you should consider reporting it to authorities.
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